I came across this quote today,
“The most important thing is to be whatever you are without shame. - Rod Steiger”
These lines inspired me to share my thoughts on the same… so … let’s talk!
In life, We are often advised that to achieve success or happiness, we must fit into a specific image or possibly act in certain way to be accepted in society. However, the truth is that such societal expectations have killed more dreams as compared to the legacies they have created.
Being yourself entails accepting your individuality, including your strengths and weaknesses. It means feeling comfortable in your own skin and not pretending to be someone you're not.
Unfortunately, many of us have been socialized to believe that we must conform to this thought to be accepted or loved. We are taught that to be happy, we must mandatorily have X, Y & Z traits or acceptable behaviours. The media and society try to influence us with messages that tell us we must conform to certain norms to be considered "normal."
This can lead to feelings of embarrassment and inadequacy. We may think that we do not meet society's expectations and that something is wrong with us. This can often result in anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.
However, in reality, there is no such thing as normal. Each of us is an individual with our own set of strengths and weaknesses. It is crucial to accept ourselves rather than trying to fit into someone else's idea of who we should be.
Accepting our flaws and imperfections is a part of being ourselves. It means accepting that no one is perfect and that we all have our struggles. It means accepting our differences and understanding that they shape who we are.
"We can live more authentically and genuinely when we accept who we are."
We don't need to put on a show or pretend to be someone we're not trying to impress people. We can be open and honest, which can lead to deeper and stronger connections with others.
So, how can we be proud of who we are without shame?
Here are some tips:
1. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and gentle with yourself. Recognize that you are doing your best and that it is okay to make mistakes.
2. Identify your values: What matters most to you? Knowing your values can help you make decisions that align with who you are.
3. Be authentic: Don't try to be someone you're not.
4. Surround yourself with positive people: This is very important, spend time with people who motivate and encourage you.
5. Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health.
Trust me, It's easier to be ourselves when we feel good from inside.
Finally, the most important thing you can do for your happiness and well-being is to be accept yourself and don't let others define you.
You are unique, special, and deserving of love and acceptance just the way you are.